I understand what you mean about using warnings because you know people personally and don't want to upset them. Actually you were the first person I thought of when I started writing a certain other fic: better make sure Lily knows not to read this, because it will not make her feel good.

I just that... grrrr. I mean, for example, I haven't considered writing anything about child abuse, but if I did I might want it to be a secret the character was holding onto, and I might not want to reveal that until quite a ways into the fic. I definitely see the reasons for putting the warnings up, but sometimes it bothers me that it's necessary in fanfic when it's not in movies or in published books. Other times I prefer the fanfic custom, because it means nobody gets a nasty shock they're not prepared for.

Yeah, I'm a flipflopper. It's good chatting with you, Lily.