links?

It seems that some parts of Merlin fandom that I don't have much contact with are talking about the anon meme and how much it hurts people and fandom. I read this post by hermette and I'm with her in that I find the best thing for my happiness is to ignore what happens there. But I agreed more strongly with the comments by onelittlesleep and lolafeist and a few others saying it's not enough to say "Have fun if that's your thing!" when people are getting attacked and bullied.

I'd like to read more about this, and at hermette's post there seemed to be a lot of references to wank happening elsewhere, only without names or links. I was wondering if that's all in f-locked posts or at the meme itself, or if there are any other public posts where people are discussing things with their own names. If you have any of those links, could you share them with me? I'm interested in this but really, really not interested in visiting the meme or trying to keep up with a discussion there, which would just make me angry and paranoid.

ETA: Some links!
-zephre - Online Bullying: A Public Discussion
-rosemaryandrue - Using Our Grown Up Voices ('ware bullying)
-ninja_orange - repost of previously locked post
-frantic_allonsy - D: QUITTING SMOKING WAS REALLY HARD.
-melusinahp - Don't look at the manatee Ah ha ha! *cries*
-onelittlesleep - Apparently I'm not done

frigg - All these words that we speak casually Yue wanted me to note that this is a personal post rather than a discussion space (these links are really a mix), but I found her ideas to be especially constructive and helpful.